37 – Only Skin Deep
I used to enjoy sunbathing, actually I
still would enjoy it if it weren't so harmful. I'm usually a very
cold person, cold hands, cold feet, cold nose, cold body. The sun
feels wonderful as it warms my skin. It's so relaxing to lay on my
lounge chair, with a magazine and warm myself up and feel a nice
spring breeze while hiding imperfections with a tan.
But after seeing my grandmother have
big slices of cancerous skin removed from her face more than a few
times, I have to think twice about how wonderful sun bathing really
is. Not only my grandmother was a victim of cancer, but my
grandfather, uncle, and my other grandmother as well, (she died of
breast cancer).
I wanted to make myself believe that it
would never happen to me. I ignored the risk, I ignored what others
were going through, because I wanted to still be able to enjoy
sunbathing and getting a tan. I would lie to myself, believing “It
won't happen to me, because my skin isn't 'that' fair, I still tan
easily, and I'm 'safe' about sunbathing, I don't overdue it”. So
many excuses I'd come up with, 'just this last time, this last year
of sunbathing, I'll stop next year”.
After ignoring the warning signs (for
years) of seeing my family members suffer with cancer, reading about
it, and seeing my own skin change, I finally came to my senses. Is it
really that important to feel warm for a few minutes a day and to
have skin that looks pretty when I'm putting myself at such a risk?
I read recently on a skin cancer site
about having your 'sun cup filled'. Each person has a limit of the
amount of sun exposure before major damage is done. I've been
thinking about this as I see more mole sunscreen stick so I can re
apply to extra sensitive spots every few hours. It's been years since
I've had an all over skin check, and I finally got the courage to
make an appointment to check it again.
I was so afraid to make the
appointment, I had waited till my fear of cancer exceeded my fear of
the Dr. visit! But I'm glad I finally went, because I knew deep down
that it is necessary, as I have already had a biopsy on a mole that
turned out to be pre-cancerous. And that was more than twelve years
ago.
Let me tell you, having someone I have
never met closely scan my entire body as I lay in only an open gown
(mostly naked) in some cold Dr.'s office is not my cup of tea. I'm
talking they looked EVERYWHERE!
Yeah, no big deal compared to cancer.
So I had this 'stranger' cut out six moles which are now on their way
to the lab for biopsy. I sit here with itchy, painful holes all over
my body, as I wait for the results. If a mole turns out to be
pre-cancerous, I will have to return to the Dr. to get more skin cut
out, just to make sure every damaged cell is removed. Last time I had
this done, I saw what they removed. It was a square inch of skin and
fat tissue, a rubbery thing, from my breast. I was so devastated that
I had such a chunk excised that I cried! I didn't expect to feel that
way, but I wanted my body part back!
So yes, I allowed fear and ignorance to
keep me from taking care of myself. I feared the same situation
happening again that happened before, and avoided any chance of
realizing that fear by I ignoring the possibility that I may get
cancer from sunbathing so that I could stay in my happy,
non-consequential bubble of soaking up the sun while achieving
beautiful tanned skin. Because skin cancer 'will never happen to me!'
Self forgiveness and self corrective
statements to come on fear, ignorance, judgment of beauty, and desire
to impress.